There tends to be a communication breakdown between mothers and daughters, says Deborah Tannen, Ph.D, author of You're Wearing That? Understanding Mothers and Daughters in Conversation. Here, Tannen translates common (and perplexing) "mom-speak"...

I'm pretty sure my mom has said a lot of these things to me....thanks mom!

1. "Where did you get that shirt?" This most likely means: "That top isn't flattering -- I wish you'd wear something else." Also, something deeper -- mom assumes your appearance is a reflection on her, so she wants you to become someone she's happy with. Tell her you need to express your own sense of style (hopefully you're not wearing fishnets and a tube top when you say this).

2. "Are you really that hungry?" Four words: Put down the doughnut (fatso!). Unless she harps on your diet all the time, this comment just slipped out before she could censor it. If the overweight comments get too abrasive, tell mom (nicely!) she needs to back off.

3. "It's nothing. I don't want to bother you." Your mom craves attention, but doesn't want to ask for it. Aww -- so don't slam the door in her face and just say," Okay, whatever ..."

4. "Marsha's daughter got into grad school." Your mom hopes when you hear of your peer's progress, you'll be inspired. But she's also in a compare-athon. She likes to brag too -- so give her updates.

5. "He's fun, but do you ever see him settling down?" Your mom thinks your bartender boyfriend is nice, but not husband material. This can be kind of awkward, since you're both adults, yet she can't exactly talk to you like a friend and say, "Dump him!" Tell her you weren't planning on eloping to Vegas just yet.

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